How To Impress The Judge

     There is no shortage of individuals who are convinced “the system” is out to get them; particularly when it comes to court.   And I have to admit I have seen cases where the only explanation I could come up with to explain a judge’s behavior was some sort of bias against one party or the other.   However, for the most part I think judges are intelligent individuals who are trying to apply the law in a fair manner.  Unfortunately, on to many occasions, they don’t get much help from the parties…or their attorneys.

    Call me old-fashioned,  but I think  it’s a good idea to wear the best clothes you have.   If that means jeans and a shirt, so be it.   And make sure your clothes, whatever they are, are clean and pressed.  However,  it is also possible to overdress for court.   I once represented a woman trying to increase the child and spousal support she was receiving.  Her goal was to convince the court she was living at below the poverty level.  When we showed up to court I was shocked,  as was the judge.  My client looked like a million bucks, before taxes.  Beautiful clothes.  Immaculately dressed.   She was indeed hurting financially, but her dress was screaming a very different message.

    When your case is called, step forward and be seated unless the judge tells you otherwise.   Look at the judge, not the opposing party or her lawyer.  Have paper and a pen ready to make notes.  Make notes of things you want to say as well as notes to address things the opposing party says that you disagree with.

     Speaking of notes, do not be afraid to use them.  To many people think the use of notes makes them look stupid.  Actually, forgetting what you wanted isn’t very smart…so make notes and use them.

     Do not re-hash what you have filed with the court.  Give the judge the benefit of the doubt that she has read your papers.  Touch on the most important points and share new information…but do not rehash what the judge has already read.

      On that point, be sure to file any papers you want the judge to read in plenty of time.    Family law judges have an enormous caseload.  They read the files and have an idea of the facts.  If you or the other party blindsides the court with new information you will not impress the judge.  And the fact of the matter is that some parties…and some attorneys, intentionally wait until the hearing to hand papers to the other side, or the judge.   Unless it is really something you learned just before court, make sure you put it on paper and get it before the judge in plenty of time.

     If child support or spousal support or attorney fees are before the court, be sure the court has current information, including recent paystups, tax information, ect… You will impress the judge…guaranteed.    Judges are supposed to make decisions based on the facts and evidence.  The better the evidence, the better the court’s decision.

     As I said before, look at the judge when you speak.   If you filed the papers wait until the judge asks you to speak.  If the other side starts, politely remind the judge it is your motion and wait for her to instruct you to proceed.   In no event are you to interupt the other party and never…I mean never interupt or talk over the judge.

      And NEVER….NEVER…EVER make faces, no matter what the other side says or does.  I mean NEVER.   About a week ago a party was becoming very agitaged at that the other side was saying.  By his own admission he began making faces, which he thought would communicate to the judg how ridiculous the other side was being.  It backfired.  Instead of  impressing the court,  the judge asked this individual if he was on drugs.  At the next hearing the other side cleverly reminded the court of what had happened the week before.  It didn’t make any difference in the outcome of that hearing, but the one individual was embarrassed.

      In review:  Dress appropriately.   Get your position to the court in plenty of time before the hearing.  Have notes ready.  Look at the judge.  Listen.  Wait your turn.  Use your notes.  Read them if you want to.   Say everything you want to say.    You can say a lot if you say it clearly and calmly.  If the other side interupts stop and wait for the judge to have them stop.  Stay calm, no matter what.

      Good luck.